Not understanding one thing doesn’t imply it must be fallacious
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Jim Fabiano is a retired instructor and author dwelling in York.
A couple of years in the past, I used to be invited to a same-sex wedding ceremony in Massachusetts. Since we’re all dwelling within the twenty-first century this could not have been an enormous problem, however as a result of I used to be born midway by way of the 20th century, taking part in the sort of affair made me really feel uncomfortable. I don’t think about myself to be homophobic. I additionally is not going to permit myself to be hypocritical. In different phrases, I attempt to not mislead myself.
The day went very nicely. There have been no wild events amongst individuals wearing wild and colourful garments who lived in a supposedly immoral world. There was not wild music or dancing that’s depicted in some motion pictures and tv exhibits after they try to point out what the homosexual world is meant to be. As an alternative, the house the place the marriage occurred was elegant and exquisite. It was situated in a wooded space that was magnificently landscaped and had a number of artwork works unfold all through the yard.
The music taking part in within the background was refined and clear with many individuals mingling in dialog having fun with the idea of speaking to individuals whom they wouldn’t ordinarily speak to. Once I first walked in, I couldn’t inform who was homosexual and who was straight as a result of the patio was full of married {couples}, some holding younger infants with others clumped into teams speaking about something that got here to their minds. There have been additionally many alternative races of individuals from all around the world. I knew this as a result of their conversations had been in languages I had by no means heard earlier than.
The house owners of the house had been two aged gents who had been casually dressed and walked amongst their friends ensuring they had been snug and knew the place the meals and bar had been. After about an hour on the patio the celebration was advised to stroll down a path that led to a secluded seaside.
All of us gathered on the seaside and have become a part of a quite simple ceremony the place two males pledged their love for one another. I couldn’t consider something that was fallacious with what was occurring earlier than me. Wanting by way of the group I observed just a few pairs of males holding arms or holding one another round their waists having fun with an idea they by no means thought they’d be capable of get pleasure from.
A thought got here to my thoughts that merely requested, simply since you don’t perceive, it doesn’t imply it must be fallacious.
Simply since you don’t know individuals or have assumptions of what these individuals are presupposed to be like there is no such thing as a purpose you’ll be able to’t benefit from the distinction of what these individuals signify. The truth is, there’s most likely little distinction as a result of we had been all introduced up with the identical ethics and morals.
In in the present day’s world, the group of people that could also be most misunderstood within the U.S. are Islamic individuals. Due to 9/11, a picture of individuals bent on destroying all that’s vital to us has been drilled into our American minds. How silly is that this? A couple of zealots from a world we don’t wish to perceive determined to take it on themselves to perform a horrific act. Does this imply we now have in charge a complete faith due to the actions of some?
Islamic individuals have been within the U.S. for generations. What I find out about their faith and their Qur’an is that it’s based mostly on the identical ideas of our Bible. Earlier than 9/11 these individuals represented group and a pleasant open spirit. I perceive we had been at struggle with the zealots however, we also needs to perceive we aren’t at struggle with a complete faith.
After the marriage ceremony, I grew to become very snug with the individuals who got here to benefit from the reception. I didn’t care about their sexual orientation and felt a scarf of ignorance fall from my thoughts.
Being a retired instructor, I inform my college students to by no means cease studying. On today I taught myself a beneficial lesson. Simply since you don’t perceive some issues or some individuals it doesn’t imply they should be fallacious. All it means is there are variations throughout us and that is at all times a great factor. It will at all times make us robust as a result of individuals are merely individuals.
